For Women Only
The one time I sought therapy was when I became a born again Christian
and had given up an affair. I was concerned that it was taking SO LONG to
get over this guy that I had broken up with. The therapist and I started
talking about marriage and the male female roles. I was reading and
believing in Fascinating Womanhood and we started to compare his
worldly way of thinking with mine. He started listening to me like a
student. I quit after three visits because I thought, "Why should I pay to
teach him about marriage?" This man started seeking my counsel. At first I
thought he was just trying to keep me as a paying client but I quickly
realized he was needing help in his own marriage (his third). But I can't help a man,
nor can Fascinating Womanhood, because it's not something a man can
do, it's up to the woman, the helper. The best advice I can give is somehow get
a copy of this book to your wife through a mutual friend or maybe a
sister. A feminist woman would hardly receive this book through her
husband.
About 15 or 20 years ago, many churches were holding seminars based on
this book. Though it's not promoted as a "Christian" book, its
all based on godly principals and quotes scripture. If you buy the
book, skim the first 60 pages or so, the really good stuff starts soon
after. (It has 380 pages).
God did not create us to be the same. A man and a woman are like puzzle
pieces that fit together and create a whole. But to think the puzzle
pieces are identical is folly. Our differences should be celebrated, not
lost and ignored in the name of "equality." God loves His sons and
daughters, but we are truly very different.
Obviously I can't recommend the book enough. It's changed all my
relationships with men, though not the male school board members that I've
confronted (biting my lip). But it has changed my relationship with my dad
and my sons as well. When my dad and I disagree on something, and I can
sense he's feeling frustrated that I'm not thinking like he is, I stand
back and analyze what's happening. Usually he's thinking like a man and
I'm thinking like a woman, and when I say to him playfully, "Oh Dad!
You're thinking like a MAN again!" he laughs and all the tension ceases.
He's complimented that I see him as a man, and he recognizes that I'm
thinking differently than he is because I'm thinking like a woman which is
understandable, because I am!
Women, if your marriage is falling apart, special order this book from
your local book store, it's amazing. You might hate some of it, you might
revolt at the idea, but just try a couple of the examples in sincerity
and you will be amazed at the fruit you will harvest. May God bless your
marriage and godly relationships.
~Jen
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