Why Porn is So Destructive to Menby
Jen Shroder
8/6/05 available to repost or repost in a
secular version
A man’s heart will drop out of his chest at the image of sensuous
breasts atop a slender waste, a firm derriere and a welcoming smile.
What could be wrong with that? A man’s interest is healthy and natural
as women work out hoping to achieve and keep that interest.
Thus the Internet is an endless well of
images and ideas beyond imagination, an easy thrill without a victim,
it would seem. So for hours, then days, then weeks and months, the
Internet can be a man’s best friend. His fantasies are stirred and
satiated, and nobody needs to know.
Until one day, the thrill is not so thrilling, the forbidden fruit
doesn’t taste forbidden any more. A man can only live out so many
positions and situations with beautiful women, whether in fantasy or
real life, before it starts to lose it’s appeal, and so he looks to
add something new and liven it up. There are a lot of roads to choose
from. Maybe it’s multiple women, maybe it’s orgies, maybe it’s tying
up a woman or being tied up, there are no limits to what can be
explored adding a little harmless "kink." But eventually, that too
will lose its luster, and every man’s nature will cause him to push
the envelope, bite a little harder, delve a little deeper. Like a drug
addict, anything he chooses will eventually lose its impact and he has
to find a little more to find satisfaction.
With enough time, and with such easy access on the Internet, a
man’s mind can easily spiral into the darkest depths of depravity.
Eventually men will become concerned about where his appetite is
leading him. No one simply started looking for lonely female victims
on their way to the store to buy milk. No one just woke up one day and
decided to join in and gang rape young children.
Counseling a man addicted to porn is one of the hardest endeavors
in therapy. There are no easy solutions. Men often find it impossible
to be aroused by their wives no matter how great their love of them. I
know a pastor who, prior to committing his life to Christ,
participated in orgies and wife-swapping which ruined his marriage.
After he divorced, he made every effort to turn his life around, he
became a pastor and met a wonderful woman that he loved very much, but
was devastated when he could not consummate the marriage on his
wedding night. God’s most sacred gift, the joining of a man to a
woman, had been abused and perverted for so many years with so many
women that it wasn’t special with his new bride. It wasn’t sacred. It
was reduced to an animal act that demanded the thrill of perversion,
and he wept.
Men attempting to turn back the clock of their potency are easily
reduced to tears in the trial. One cannot simply will themselves to be
aroused by what became boring to them long ago. All those hours they
fantasized they were unwittingly robbing their future wives of their
wedding bed, or worse, for if they ventured deep into the realm of
porn, many have reached the point that they are hanging around school
yards preying on our children.
Remember John Lockhart, the young lawyer on America’s Most
Wanted for raping a four month old infant? Over 100 pornographic
pictures were found on his hard drive. These woeful acts, these
atrocities are born in fantasies fed by the Internet. Every crime
committed is fantasized first. Where the mind goes, the body follows.
"But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has
already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Jesus in Matt
5:27-28) Whether a fantasy is acted upon or not, there is serious
damage.
And it is for this reason that every Supreme Court Justice that
ruled to protect pornography on the Internet will be horrified when
they finally come face to face with our Father in heaven, and clearly
see the sickening crimes they imposed on society with their ruling.
The broken bodies of dead children, the tortured hearts and minds of
those attempting to live out their lives after being molested. Not one
of the judges in our nation that protected pornography as "freedom of
speech" or lightened the sentences of pedophiles will be able to face
God with an open heart. The fruit of those judges bears witness of
their current eternal position and fate.
In the meantime, stay away from pornography. It may be legal, but
it will soil your soul. Though it seems harmless, it can seriously
suck you in, lead you down dark roads, ruin your life and
relationships with those you love. I wish you could hear the cracked
voices and sobs of strong men that I’ve heard. Pornography is nothing
to play with. Ask anyone who has ever tried to quit.
A man’s only hope of recovery is in Christ, but that requires
extreme patience and time. The only way to break the stronghold of
pornography addiction is to strangle it, stop feeding it and
eventually it will die. Lift up your head and focus on God. It will be
very hard at first, but hang on to Him, turn your time and energy
toward God,
He has always been there to help you through it.
Source: Article about
John Lockhart
